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It’s good to be in touch with your emotions, right?
Yes. But also consider this.
If you become easily overwhelmed or flooded by emotions, so much so that you have trouble regaining a sense of calm, you may need to learn emotional regulation.
Because out-of-control emotions tend to trigger more out-of-control emotions, which leads to more distress. Repeating the same response can also strengthen the tendency to repeat it again in the future. The frequent expression of strong emotions can become addictive as well. …
A river of boiling lava flowed vigorously from Fissure Eight. It traveled a full seven miles to the ocean, creating a new mass of underwater land.
Periodically, the burning river overflowed its 50–75 feet high banks, covering more land, decimating beautiful coastal recreational areas, and taking more homes.
Eventually it took my home and fruit tree orchard too.
I went through many different emotional phases during the three-month long eruption. I felt heartbroken by the enormity of the loss, which touched thousands of individuals and scattered my community far and wide. …
What are “I am” affirmations? How do they work?
“I am” affirmations are short, positive statements you can repeat to reverse false unconscious or semi-conscious beliefs you hold about your most essential self.
“I am” affirmations work because your mind will believe whatever you tell it repeatedly.
Each time you repeat the same thought, the neural pathway for that particular message grows stronger. With repetition, in time, the neurons on that pathway begin to fire faster and faster, until the belief becomes automatic, along with its associated emotions and behaviors.
This explains how we develop false beliefs about ourselves as…
Does the idea of sitting still for any length of time disconcert you?
If so, you’re normal. Most people dislike being alone with their own mind.
When people were ask to sit with their thoughts for 6–15 minutes in a series of studies conducted at the University of Virginia by psychologist Timothy Wilson, most said it wasn’t enjoyable and it was hard to concentrate.
In one study of the series, the majority of men preferred to self-administer a mild electric shock rather than sit quietly with their own thoughts for the full 15-minute period.
You could just leave it at…
“Does your energy suddenly deflate when you interact with a particular person? If so, what would you do?”
I once asked this question on my Facebook profile after an interaction with a mentor left me deflated.
I’d been joyful, confident, and excited as I described a new idea in an online community. My mentor responded in a sharp, unsupportive tone. Every single molecule of positive energy drained from my being. I felt like a crumpled beach balloon.
This wasn’t my first experience of deflation with this person.
Our mentor-student relationship began well. But gradually our interactions degraded. I appreciated her…
Have you been tempted to try mindfulness after hearing about its amazing benefits? Or maybe you’ve practiced a while and now feel stuck.
Mindfulness has been touted as the solution to anxiety, depression, stress, and chronic pain. It’s marketed as a means to improve focus, efficiency, sleep, relationships, and physical health. Practice mindfulness, they say, and you’ll find happiness, fulfillment, and inner peace. You’ll even extend the length of your life.
These claims aren’t all malarkey.
Research from the first Mindfulness-based Stress Reduction Program at the University of Massachusetts Medical School tells us:
“Published evaluations of the medical outcomes resulting…
Memory stars beckon me to the past, this cool early morning.
“Star Light, Star Bright.
The first star I see tonight.
I wish I may; I wish I might.
Have the wish, I wish tonight.”
I wish to live right now, no longer entangled in wistful memories. Purposeless longing brings me no joy.
Instead, I’ll choose present moment delights. Rooster calls and frosty feet. The pitter-patter of kitty paws as Tara follows me around the house.
“Where will Sandra land?” She wonders. “I want to be there too.”
Do you see my smiles now?
After this bit of click-clack on the keys, I’ll allow my bones to sink back into the mattress, feeling each measure of comfort it brings. I’ll merge with the silence between the rooster crows and simply be. I’ll wait for sleep to once again slip over me.
Memory stars, you have not captured me.