Professional pursuing creativity

Photo of woman at Washington Loop Trail
Photo of woman at Washington Loop Trail
Photo of woman at Washington Loop Trail

Relocated to the Pacific Northwest and changed my hobbies to include hiking so I can fit in! (Just kidding, but once you settle in, everyone decides to take advantage of the incredible nature here).

Fun fact: I’m allergic to fish, clams, and eels. This doesn’t stop me from picking up my latest hobby of clamming. It’s a fun activity, lets me explore state parks, and incorporates some exercise.

I write about a variety of topics from relationships, work, money, and self-improvement. Just like in my career, I’m a bit of a generalist and don’t like to stick to one niche.


Use these signs as encouragement.

A blonde woman holding a yellow smiley face balloon smiling wearing a white shirt
A blonde woman holding a yellow smiley face balloon smiling wearing a white shirt
A blonde woman holding a yellow smiley face balloon smiling wearing a white shirt

With the emphasis on hustle culture on “how I became a millionaire by 30” or “how I bought a house at 25”, the grind can get discouraging as you’re comparing yourself to others. And you realize their path doesn’t match yours.

It’s easy to save money when you’re single and making six-figures.

It’s easy to buy a house when you live in a low cost of living area.

It’s easy to become a millionaire when you’re born into a rich family.

But for most folks, it’s not that simple. Numerous obstacles challenge our financial stability to reach our goals. …


It’s not just physical

A silhouette of a couple at sunset
A silhouette of a couple at sunset
A silhouette of a couple at sunset

Finding compatibility in a relationship is like finding the right pieces to a jigsaw puzzle. It’s when the conversation easily flows, your goals align, and your love deepens.

When people reflect on finding “the one,” they say it makes sense why the other relationships didn’t work out. You still have struggles and have to commit to each other every day, but your arguments seem trivial over full-fledged arguments haunting your past relationships.

The adage of opposites attract can still ring true. Seeking a compatible partner doesn’t mean you’re finding someone exactly like you. …


These are big steps, not baby steps.

A red and white home standing on a pile of coins
A red and white home standing on a pile of coins
A red and white home standing on a pile of coins

People don’t just wake up one day and become millionaires unless you’re born into a rich family, of course. Most people can’t even pay off all their student debt or purchase a house.

If you want to get ahead, you have to make risky or difficult life decisions. And then follow through with these decisions until it’s a lifestyle over an extended time.

What are the key financial decisions that can change your life for the better and the future?

1. Live below your means over a consistent period

Living below your means is spending less than you earn. …


And if it’s time to jump ship

An overwhelmed male with post-it notes all over his face at work
An overwhelmed male with post-it notes all over his face at work
An overwhelmed male with post-it notes all over his face at work

We’ve all heard Marcus Buckingham’s famous line of “people leave managers, not companies.”

In my experience, working with an incompetent or unprofessional manager is an immediate red flag that leads employees to look for another job or give their resignation notice sooner rather than later.

But what is it about a company that makes an employee leave?

Toxic work environments.

But by the time someone makes the conscious decision to quit, chances are, they’ve probably worked in a toxic environment for an extended period.

Through my personal experience and the lens of an HR professional, below are some signs of…


Here’s why this unpopular opinion works.

Two women working out with one person doing sit ups on a yoga mat
Two women working out with one person doing sit ups on a yoga mat
Two women working out with one person doing sit ups on a yoga mat

There’s a time to receive expert advice — when you don’t know what you’re doing or what’s going on.

But receiving motivation from an expert may not feel like the saving grace to your stagnant or deteriorating health.

The results from engaging in conversations with seemingly “normal” people may surprise you.

In my experience, my health spiraled in small increments. I was far from my school-athlete days and now balanced a full-time job among other adulting responsibilities. My diet and fitness routine felt subpar, but my turning point resulted in talking with my peers about what works for them.

Of…


Here’s what we get wrong.

A couple under a blanket drinking out of their mugs
A couple under a blanket drinking out of their mugs
A couple under a blanket drinking out of their mugs

Similar to love at first sight, compatibility may not be what you think it is.

Compatibility is like your rational best friend. The one that’s the brain of the group. The person who is the responsible designated driver after a night out. But it gets confused for other things in the love realm.

Despite its reputation, compatibility can be your secret weapon. The magical thing about compatibility is that it helps you navigate the challenges in a relationship.

I like to consider my significant other and me as compatible. …


If you’re able to reinvent yourself now, imagine what your future will bring.

A woman sitting viewing the city skyline
A woman sitting viewing the city skyline
A woman sitting viewing the city skyline

One day my friend called me and confided, “I just went through my quarter-life crisis. Have you?”

I immediately answered no. But after hearing my friend detail her recent epiphany, I experienced a change of heart.

I didn’t think my life felt all that dramatic. But my latest career risk resulted from feeling miserable months earlier. I had already passed my quarter-life crisis and didn’t even know it.

While I appreciated the financial stability living with my parents brought me, I knew I could achieve greater things when leaving the nest for good. …


And what questions to ask yourself before hitting publish

A woman working on her laptop surrounded by flowers
A woman working on her laptop surrounded by flowers
A woman working on her laptop surrounded by flowers

Michelle Phan is considered the “OG of beauty YouTubers.” When she relaunched her brand and split from L’Oréal, she completely revamped her Em Cosmetics brand.

Instead of pushing out similar products with her name slapped on the front, she ensured each product provided a revolutionary niche. Why? She wanted to avoid at all costs contributing to the beauty industry’s noise. The result included a beautiful hybrid between skincare and makeup.

Every time I sit down to write, I apply Phan’s product strategy mindset to my words. In a world with saturated content, how can we produce something unique with value?


When you doubt yourself.

A woman holding a puppy
A woman holding a puppy
A woman holding a puppy

When you pull back the curtain on your past, what do you see?

I saw a younger and slimmer me, full of anxiety about how my life would turn out. I fixated on landing a job at a good company. I dreamt about finding a loving partner when most of my friends had already had their series of firsts in relationships. The hypotheticals piled up.

Just like lifestyle inflation, your success can creep up on you. And when you’re laser-focused on the next best thing, it’s easy to forget how far you’ve come. Other people praise you for your accomplishments…

Jessie Vee

Experienced human resources professional by day and passionate storyteller by night. Avid writer on relationships, work, finance, and more!

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